In our "little" town of Yucaipa, there are fireworks shows every night for the Wow-ing.
Okay, here's the deal. I just didn't have a good picture of fireworks, so why not the sun?
So what does it mean, in the context of our relationship, to declare one's independence? Well, it does mean something very important as long as one's independence is part of the bigger picture and the entire dance.
In the last chapter of the book, "Know There Is A Dance," we look at all four movements or elements of an essential dance. Independence is only one of the four. Without integrating your independence into the other three movements of the dance, independence remains just that. Independence. So why be in a relationship if that is all you want? I mean, how much fun can it be to dance with yourself if you have the option of experiencing dancing with a partner?
When our independence is recognized as one ingredient, the others being codependence, counterdependence, and interdependence, our independence can contribute rich and unique flavors and movements to the relationship dance.
When each person brings their independence to the dance floor, they create a work of art that goes beyond the sum of their independence. They create something more, something undefinable. And in experiencing the more, they can experience the lush soothing of codependence, the raucous tugging of counterdependence, the exquisiteness of independence, and the elegant magical flow of interdependence.
So for heaven's sake declare your independence. It's Fourth of July, for crying out loud, for heaven's sake, after all! But don't make such a declaration to the exclusion of the other elements of the dance.
Otherwise, you will be dancing alone. And so what's the point?
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