Wednesday, September 5, 2012

COMPROMISE?

OKAY, WHO'S GONNA BUDGE HERE?

In recent blogs, we have been looking at compromise and consensus.  Here's another "drive by" at compromise and the limits of compromise.


....there’s nothing wrong with compromise.  It is often referred to as the middle ground.  But it is just that.  The middle ground.  It does not encompass the full breadth of what each person has to offer the relationship.
The middle ground is often a dull and boring place to hang out.  Most of us are not able to hang out there very long.  And when we begin venturing beyond the middle ground, the strife begins again.  The peace of the middle ground is very tenuous and extremely vulnerable to being compromised!

WELL, WHAT ABOUT FAIRNESS?
What about it?!  This is one of those topics that is going to be extremely difficult for some of you to let go of.  We talked about it in the Mawvelous Differences chapter.  There is no way to fit fairness into choreography.  It’s a totally foreign concept when it comes to dancing.  It just doesn’t fit.  It’s not in the same league.  Sorry! 
(Final Chapter, page 162).

 Most of us are so programmed to think in terms of fifty fifty, you do your part, or we even talk about my better half as if each of us are a half of the relationship, that it is almost foreign for us to think in terms of 100/100.

BUT THAT IS WHAT IT TAKES TO DO THE DANCE.

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