When we first meet, our difference are extremely attractive. In fact, some times, our differences give us the impression that we are so much alike! As our relationship develops, the differences become more pronounced and at some point, they become sore spots, the source of disillusionment, the driving wedge that pushes us apart and into being separate, no longer a couple, no longer a relationship.
I hear a lot of folks say, "Well, that's just how it is. The romance fades and real life sets in. You can't keep the romance going forever."
I hear other folks say, "Well, romance will never sustain your relationship. Romance is like young love. As you grow in the relationship, your love matures and no, it's not romantic, but that's what true love is.
You know what? As much truth as there may be in all of that, I think it is ALL BUNK.
The romance in the relationship is ALWAYS there for the taking, ALWAYS there for the taking. It is a choice. You can choose to be or live in your differences and go nuts with each other and ultimately leave each other, or you can BE and LIVE in the relationship. That's how you experience the romance over and over and over and over again.
You don't know how to do that? So pick up the book and start reading, read it together, and do the work at the end of each chapter.
THANK YOU FOR INVESTING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.